When, as a young person, a most excellent and auspicious opportunity to take monastic vows arose, I balked. Even though it was under the auspices of the then senior Sakya scholar-monk, the Encyclopedic Deshung Rinpoche, Kunga Tenpay Nyima, and His Holiness the present Sakya Gongma Trichen, one of the greatest Sakya Trizins of a millennium long lineage. This too, even after it had rightly been said by His Holiness’s sister, Jetsunma, that I had ‘monk’s mind.’ In truth, I mostly declined because I thought I knew myself, at twenty-seven, well enough to say, ‘Who are you kidding? You could never keep all those vows. Especially celibacy.’ I was certainly not alone in thinking this. At that time, the mid-to-late 70’s, during the Sakya’s germinal development in North America, many New York Dharma students embraced the Nyingma school precisely because their vowed lamas could take mates or consorts, known as khandros. Now I’m more inclined to think taking on monastic discipline, even with ...